Sexy dating older women
Some women and men consider "cougar" a sexist, derogatory term, but the flavor of the meaning in context varies from empowering to offensive.Current terms for men who marry or seek relationships with (much) younger women are such things are the derogatory "dirty old man" and more rarely, a "rhino." The term cougar is an illustration of how modern culture defines and prescribes the roles for (heterosexual) women and men in society.They are also an explicit reflection that sexuality is not necessarily connected with childbearing.Moreover, an increase in status, education, and income mean that women can enter into relationships with younger men since these women are no longer financially dependent on partners.However, there is a considerable negative undertone prevalent in the media, particularly on internet sites such as and the Urban Dictionary, where cougars are often described as "desperately aggressive" or "desperately clinging to youth." Surveys show that women, in general, feel that such behavior is ultimately dangerous for the men, themselves, or both.The cougars are seen as predators of unwary men, or victims of the cultural imperative to find value in their physical appearance.Sociologist Milaine Alarie compiled statistics for her 2018 Ph. thesis on the subject of the relationships defined as older women and younger men. Census reported that women were older than their husbands by four years or more in only 7.9 percent of marriages, and by 10 years in 1.7 percent.She found that overall, and just as in the past, women typically marry men who are slightly older than they are. By contrast, men are older than their wives by four years or more in 31.8 percent of marriages, and by 10 years in 7.4 percent of marriages. The statistics also show that the majority of the women in such permanent relationships are generally low-income, not well educated, and select "other" rather than black or white as a racial designation.
At the same time, they are perceived as women who strive to correspond to strict, ageist conceptions of female beauty—maintaining a youthful appearance and slimness well into middle age.There are many reasons why women might choose to enter into such relationships on a more or less permanent basis.A woman might choose a younger man as a partner because she is less likely to have to eventually support her spouse (physically or emotionally) in their final years as his health declines, but rather be cared for herself.She is comparatively wealthy, or at least financially independent, and she expresses her sexuality by publicly pursuing younger men for casual relationships or sexual encounters.She does so, she says, because she wants a partner who appreciates and can satisfy a sexually assertive and financially independent woman.