Recovery dating services
So you’ve begun to get the cravings under control and are starting to rebuild your life.You’re changing habits, changing your thinking and feeling hopeful about the future.Often during active addiction, we can lose our sense of self.We’re attached to drugs, alcohol and/or behaviors which take a lot of our time, attention and resources.If you shift your focus to another person too soon, you risk the possibility of shortchanging yourself on a solid foundation and developing a relationship with the person who matters most: yourself.Addiction and its underlying causes have a way of anesthetizing our gut reactions to people, places and things.(As a Southern friend of mine said, “When you see red flags, it doesn’t mean a parade is coming to town”.) He told me he was divorced and I soon found out he was actually just separated. Soon after this, I got a collect call from the Fresno jail after he had gotten his fourth DUI.
It is critical that you be honest with yourself as to why you are wanting to date or get involved with another person.You’re taking up new activities, hobbies and friends.Your life is changing in many ways, and it’s important not only to enjoy this process of change, but allow time for it to truly develop and take hold.If our internal measuring system for which we determine what is good and healthy for us isn’t fully developed, we can get into trouble.Relationships are vulnerable to this, and without a sense of who is good for us and who isn’t, it’s easy to get into something with someone who will only bring us down.