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After a brief back-and-forth, simply say something like “Was I interrupting, by the way?
I don’t want to impose.” This gives them the opportunity to politely tell you they must go or are too tired to chat, without it being a big uncomfortable moment.
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But again, observe their reaction and wait until it has been reciprocated before doing it again or proceeding to more lingering touches, to make sure they are comfortable with it.
If your first step in flirting is to touch someone, if your first move is to put your hands on someone’s body before you’ve received any indication that it is welcome, you have got flirting very, very wrong.
Anyone can glance in your direction accidentally, so repeatedly looking at you and smiling is a stronger indication that a conversation opener might be welcome. There’s a chasm of difference between a one-word answer and a flowing conversation where the other person is not just responding, but prolonging it by expanding upon the topic of conversation and asking you questions – and observing this difference is vital.
Girls are conditioned from childhood not to be rude, forceful, or blunt, particularly to men.
In the era of #Me Too, there’s a lot of (often pretend) confusion and hyperbole about the dynamics of flirting, with men crying out “But how on earth can we re-populate the planet if I’m no longer allowed touch women’s legs without written permission?!
” Let me tell you the not-so-secret secret of flirting that really should be self-evident: it starts long before touching.