28 year old woman dating 22 year old man
But after yet another terminated relationship where a lack of ambition was at the core of our issues, I realized something: It's not that I need a guy to be rich — I just need him to be about something, actively. Because I really, really wanted the guys I was with to be Men and not Boys, I would frequently make myself smaller in relationships to compensate for the ways they didn't have their sh*t together.
One of the main ways that played out was baby talk. But by assuming the tone of a younger girl who needed to be taken care of when I was feeling needy or I wanted attention, I was often able to trick myself into feeling like the guys I was with were more dominant or protective than they actually felt to me otherwise.
I told myself that it didn't matter to me if a guy could take me to a nice dinner sometimes, or travel with me spontaneously.
I told myself that those things were mostly superficial.
Sure, I'm still sweet and affectionate, but I don't want to sound like a baby to him.I'm a serial monogamist and hopeless romantic who's hoping to grow out of it, and I am, like most 27-year-olds and human beings, a complete work in progress.Take everything I say here with major grains of salt, and know that there is no way I think that my experience could possibly speak to all women in their 20s.I'm acting more like a grown woman, because I am one — and I want to be his equal. ) that you can always tell when a friend is really in love because you don't hear much from them about it.Sure, that has many exceptions, (hello, abusive relationships) but by and large, I've realized that the happier I am, the less I feel the need to tell lots of people about my relationship in the same detail, because I don't have as much to prove.